FORGIVE ME.. PLEASE FORGIVE ME…

The other day I was watching a program on TV called roadies on MTV, where I came across a contestant, sweet girl, very confident, emotional and having average looks. She had written in her application form that her boyfriend was everything for her.

And as the roadies’ judges are known to put all the pressures on contestants they are always looking out on points where they can score more than contestants only to give them pressure. While going through her form they came across a point where she had mentioned that she had forgiven her boyfriend when she found out that he was simultaneously carrying along with someone else. I am sure many of you would have seen this episode, but the only point triggered me of her, how could she FORGIVE a person who cheated on her…?

I was quiet surprised when I heard it and that too she forgives him in a day. I seriously doubt would she be carrying the same faith she had in him and would it be possible that she is carrying the same security level that she had before and this female seriously wanted to spend whole life with him. Since she had been just taught that loving him is painful and trusting him is risky. To forgive him, she has to put their hand back in the fire when every self-protective sense will be yelling NO.
It also kept me wondered what would be going on in the guy’s mind. He would be kind of guy who just want’s an ideal (simple, sober) partner like every other guy in the world. I know many couples carry along with someone else while they are committed with one relationship but why do we need to cheat someone who has given everything of theirs to you. They would have changed themselves for your sake, they would have done things the way you like it and still you would have all the guts in the world to cheat on them and also expect to forgive you. (I am talking of couples who are happy in their relationship).

You sent your partner's self-confidence plummeting when you chose someone else. To forgive you, to take you back, your partner has to summon up the courage to step into uncertainty. There is simply no promise you can give that they can unequivocally believe. Mustering that kind of blind faith is a daunting prospect.

Embracing forgiveness they risk foolishness if you let them down. Embracing experience, they risk the proverbial foolishness of cutting off their nose.

Foolishness is a possible outcome in all their choices. Accepting this, they can choose if they prefer to be a person who will learn from these mistakes or one who will forgive mistakes in others. And this female chose to forgive mistakes, may GOD bless her with a good life with him.